Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. Psalms 127:3
Children are precious!! Many may beg to differ, or may question the level of emphasis. Nonetheless, our children are “invaluable”. Not “valueless”. They are like precious stones that you would protect from the elements, and any person that may not appreciate their value. As parents/guardians we should love our children. That encompasses nurturing, protecting, providing, instructing, disciplining, and encouraging them.
Now that we have laid some ground work lets move on to something more specific. Our children NEED positive reinforcement. There are more than enough negative influences around them. Our children no matter how mischievous they are need our affection. They need our encouragement. Fathers your daughters need you to tell them they are beautiful. Mothers your sons need you to tell them they can accomplish their goals. Fathers your sons need your “respect” as they grow into adulthood. Mothers your daughters need to know that you see them maturing into a woman. They need you to treat them as such. Now I know that most of the time the child may ACT totally opposite of this. However, as people of God we have to “Speak Life” to our children. Remember that this is spiritual warfare. There are even situations where you have done all that you can, and the child is simply determined to take the wrong path. In this case you have to provide the necessary boundaries. The child has to understand that there are consequences for their actions. We should still pray for their deliverance.
Don’t let the first positive thing spoken to your daughter come from some spaghetti head boy around the corner. If you build her self esteem as she is growing up she will have the proper image of herself when she gets older. She will then be secure enough to make better decisions. Don’t let your son have to find acceptance on the street corner because you didn’t spend the quality time with him that he needed. Play with your kids from the time they are small and on. Play video games with them. Whatever they like to do find interest in it. Even if they get in trouble for bringing home a “D” be sure you tell them its because you know they can do better. Then help them as much as you can. They will thank you for it one day.